Is it ever acceptable to skip your sister’s wedding? This might be the only reason

The day a person gets married is more often than not a very important important one in their life, so is there ever a valid reason to skip out on someone’s wedding?

Maybe if it’s a distant cousin or old friend you’re not really in touch with anymore, you could get away with missing their big day with a good excuse.

But when it comes to close family, especially siblings, most would argue there’s no reason not to be there.

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A 28-year old woman has taken to Reddit’s ‘Am I The Asshole’ forum to ask if she’s in the wrong for refusing to be her sister’s maid of honour after her sister skipped her own wedding the year prior – where she was also supposed to be the maid of honour.

‘Why did the sister skip her wedding?’, we hear you ask. Well, her dog died two days before the ceremony.

“Two days before my wedding, her 14 year old dog passed away unexpectedly. I was obviously sympathetic, but she called me sobbing, saying she couldn’t emotionally handle coming to the wedding because she was too devastated,” the first sister wrote on Reddit.

“I tried to talk her down, even offered to have someone bring her home early if it was too much, but she refused and didn’t show up.

“It hurt. A lot. She missed one of the biggest days of my life, and I had no maid of honor. We didn’t talk much after that.”

She went on to add that her sister had now gotten engaged just “a few months ago” and was now requesting that she be maid of honour. 

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“I told her I couldn’t. I said I still felt hurt she missed my wedding, and while I love her, I just couldn’t pretend like everything was fine,” she wrote.

“She got extremely upset, said I was being cold and petty, and that her dog was like her child. Our parents are pressuring me to just be the bigger person.”

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The comments were somewhat divided as to whether or not the sister who shared the post was in fact ‘the asshole’, however most people ended up with the conclusion that she was.

“I think she couldn’t win, really. It was only 2 days after her dog passed. She wasn’t ready,” one person wrote.

“Either she skips your wedding and you’re mad about that, or she comes to your wedding, breaks down and ends up drawing attention whether she really intends to or not.

“You’d probably be even madder about that.”

Others who came to the poster’s defense said that she has every right to turn down the maid of honour position, with one caveat:

If she can’t uphold the duties, it’s totally acceptable to turn the role down, but if she is saying “no” out of spite, it might be time to forgive and forget.

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