Woman’s dilemma over announcing baby news at family event marking sister-in-law’s first Mother’s Day

A woman who has been trying to fall pregnant for the past year is now expecting her first child.

Overjoyed, she initially considered sharing the happy news on Mother’s Day which is the next time she and her husband will be with family.

Only it’s her sister in law’s first Mother’s Day, so she’s wondering just how much drama that will cause if her in-laws feel her announcement is taking away from her husband’s sibling’s big moment.

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Sharing the dilemma on Reddit’s ‘Would I Be The A**hole” thread, the mum-to-be said she and her partner have already waited to tell her in-laws until after her 12-week appointment, when she received blood work results confirming the baby is at low risk for health disorders.

“We live far from my family, so we don’t get together often,” she writes.

“We ended up asking if the family wanted to do something on Mother’s Day (since no one planned anything)— and everyone agreed.”

Her husband is “very eager to share” because he fears if they don’t announce it on Mother’s Day, they “likely won’t see [the relatives] in person for at least another month”.

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However, the woman is concerned, as it is her brother and sister-in0law’s first Mother’s Day, having welcomed their first child in September.

She says she “can’t help but wonder if we’re stepping on their toes by sharing the news that day”.

“Especially when I consider that it has taken them many years, multiple miscarriages, and several rounds of IVF to finally have their baby,” she explained.

Her husband doesn’t see any issue with them sharing the news, but she still can’t help but worry about it.

One Redditer suggested her husband have a quiet chat with his brother about it and find out how she feels about them sharing the news.

“Personally I’d ask my husband to have a conversation with his brother/sister (you didn’t say which) and just ask if they’d rather you guys hold off on announcing so she can have her first mother’s day all to herself or whatever,” they said.

Another agreed, writing: “I will still ask your husband to talk to his brother, your situation is different because they tried for so long. Just be nice.

”I would have been delighted as a first time mother to hear the news on Mother’s Day that my family members were expecting,” another said.

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“Getting a cousin shirt for the baby would be cute,” one person suggested.

“Unless SIL and BIL have made mountains out of molehills regularly in the past, I can’t see why you shouldn’t take the opportunity here,” another agreed.

”I think that announcing your pregnancy at a mother’s day party would be glorious. Mother’s Day is meant to honor all mothers no one owns it,” another said.

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“I think it’s totally fine. I’d do it towards the end of the celebration though. Let the new parents have their moment,” one Redditer suggested.

“Please don’t forget that you’re a mom now, too and it’s just as much your day as SIL’s. Every mother should get to celebrate Mother’s Day whether it’s their first or 50th,” another said.

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“No one owns Mother’s Day and I think it is a really lovely time to share the news that you’re a mom now, too!”

The mother-to-be felt encouraged by the feedback.

“I’m relieved that it seems most people think this is fine to do. I think sometimes I over think these things,” she responded.

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